That is a perfect summation, Housefly! Just perfect.
In the case of Frid, he is so different than many actors in that he doesn't believe he is "all that" and really could not care about celebrity. He believes the only use of celebrity is to get to do what you want more, otherwise he doesnt care about it.
The story MB relates reminds me of reading or hearing some discussion co-star Grayson Hall was having with some fans about Jonathan and even she said that his stage career involved his only carrying a spear (or something like that) when in fact he won nothing but acclaim in the New York Times and other newspapers for his stage appearances in major roles, being directed by prestigious stage directors and in famous theaters across the country. If someone is supposedly a fan of his and simply doesn't make it a point to know more about his stage career (which spans almost sixty years) then he doesn't care about the fan's opinion on his overall career. He knows what he did and he did what he wanted to for the most part. When that remark was made in 1989, he had recently come off a stage tour of Arsenic and Old Lace that shattered box office records across the U.S. and was performing his one man show all over the place and Canada too. Again, information that readily available and a serious JF fan would know which is why comments like the one MB related don't really bother him.
Housefly, another sub-culture of fandom are those fans who have some interaction with the actors during the festivals and maybe at other events during the year who then refer to themselves as being "close friends" with the actor. Frequently, that's news to the actor in question who doesn't think of the fan as being anymore than an acquaintance or maybe a friend they see at DS and fan events and nothing else.
Nancy
That's a weird subculture of fandom - the person who wants to belittle the one they sought out. I see that a lot. They roll up to a guy/gal's autograph table and ask a smirking "so what have you been DOING?" or "where've you BEEN?" The dime store psychologist in me figures it's a bit of a power rush - they feel empowered having belittled the "big famous" person. It's classless and gross.