Debra, good luck with your daughter. I am sure you have asked her anything going on a school, or with friends? What I tell my kids is my biggest regret is not finishing college.
Thank you Birdie for your well wishes. The problem was that she just recently tells me that she has always hated the school that she's been attending since the 9th grade. Since we practically live up in the boondocks here, finding another school nearby is out of the question. They do however have night school classes (in the same school) but they're quite different from the daytime classes, and also have a whole different personnel of teachers that work individually with each child if they appear to be having trouble keeping up with the work. My daughter seems to be all for this and is going to be starting in September. These nighttime classes are for kids (or adults) who for whatever reason didn't finish high school and it's a way for them to receive the GED. Im still quite upset over it as I had wished to see her graduate with cap & gown & diploma walking down the aisle with the rest of her class.
My daughter had a very bad spell at 13 and 14, then straightened out to where we thought we had the worst of it licked. She did very well in college... and then boom. Now, at age 22, she's having some god-awful reversion to 13. The problem now is that she has adult issues to deal with and they're building up to where the hole she's in is very deep indeed. We can't -- and won't -- dig her out of it. All I can do is hope that everything we've taught her over the years about actions and consequences is going to get through to her before the worst happens.
Mark, I believe you're doing the right thing in letting her figure out how to get out of her problems on her own, since this is part of growing up. But on the other hand I know how hard it is to see all of it happening in front of you. The worst thing for us is to witness our children having problems and not being able to come to their rescue, like we did when they were small children. The only thing we can do is offer our guidance & support which I think, is the greatest gift that a parent can offer their young adult children.
I wish you well Mark and hope everything turns out okay for your daughter.
Cassandra,
Thanks also for the well wishes. Yes I am grateful that at least she's willing to go for her GED because I've seen so many kids just totally give up on education without even giving it a second thought. But nevertheless, it still hurts me not being able to watch her walk down the aisle along with the rest of her class.
Things were so different for me growing up. Leaving school, especially in the 11th grade never even crossed my mind, (and if it had Im sure my strict Sicilian parents would have erased it from my mind in no time!!)
The only thing I wanted to do was graduate, get my diploma and get on with my life. While I never attended college, I did work right away and stayed there full time until I had my first child. Sure, there were other kids in my class that eventually dropped out due to one thing or another, but for me, I just couldn't see spending 13 of your young years in school, year after year, day after day, only to leave it all only year ahead of schedule. And as much as I got tired of school also (especially during the teen years) I wasn't going no where until I got that piece of paper in my hand, my diploma that I went to school all these years for!
Lets hope the 2nd half of 2003 is alot better for all of us!
Deb
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