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Folks I believe in the power of prayer. Our friend Craig Hamrick is
not doing so well. Those of us who saw him at the festival a couple
of weeks ago will be shocked I am sure. Craig of course has kept the
torch alive by writing books and maintaining Dark Shadows online.
Craig is a dear friend who has taught me strength. He has been there
on so many occasions the last couple of years for Peter and I both
professionally and personally.
Earlier this morning I received this email from Craig's lover and our
friend Joe:
-----Original Message-----
From: Joe Salvatore
Sent: Thursday, September 14, 2006 1:57 AM
To: Joe Salvatore
Subject: craig hamrick's condition
Dear Friends and Colleagues:
I wanted to let you know that Craig's health has deteriorated
significantly over the past three days, and this afternoon he
entered
a hospice facility here in NYC. His mother, stepfather, and brother
arrived today, and the doctor has said that Craig is entering the
final stage of his battle with colon cancer. No one is sure how
long
the battle will continue. The doctor was talking in weeks on
Monday,
but Craig's condition got worse pretty quickly on Tuesday. We will
need to wait and see.
Craig is comfortable, fairly alert, but dealing with confusion and
disorientation. His liver is failing, and this is causing the
toxins
to build up in his bloodstream. Hence the confusion. He is not in
pain at this point, which is helpful.
I'm sorry that this is coming to some of you in an email, but as you
can imagine, the last few days have been overwhelming and a
struggle. Not sure what to say about visitors. I will try to get a
sense tomorrow and see what he thinks.
My ability to access email during the day is limited, as I will be
balancing time at the hospice and my work schedule. I will do my
best to keep you informed.
As always, thank you for all of your support. It holds us up as we
move through these moments.
With much thanks,
joe
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May we all send a word to the higher power and ask to provide
comfort for both Joe and Craig.
Warmth and friendship to each one of you today.
John
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John,
Thank you for posting that.
Nancy
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My thoughts and prayers go out to Craig and his family.
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This is very upsetting.
Craig's a good guy, who's done a lot for DS and who was also a comfort to Louis Edmonds during Big Lou's illness.
I'm a big believer in Karma & a Creator, but when something like this happens to a good guy like Craig, you have to wonder why.
David
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I will most definately put Craig and his loved ones on my prayer list. Thank you for letting us know.
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I'm very sad [sad10] to hear that Craig is doing so poorly. Best wishes to him and his loved ones. May the blessings be!
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Thank you for posting this. My prayers will go out to Craig and his loved ones.
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Craig is an exceptional man, and I'm so sorry to hear how ill he is.
I will pray for him and those who love him.
Love, Robin
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I am very sorry to hear this. We had Craig on our prayer list at our church for several weeks, and he seemed to be so much better at the fest, I told Pastor Dorothy that we could take him off the list, but I will be sure he is added back. We will continue to send prayers, well wishes and hope.
Michael :-
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It's so damn unfair! I saw him at the Festival and thought things had turned for the better. He's done so much for Ds fandom with his entertaining books (over the weekend I was going over his guide to DS collectibles) and DS online, among other things. If he does 'cross over' soon, you can be assured he'll get the ultimate welcoming committe a DS fan can get: just imagine Louis, Joan, Grayson, Michael, Thayer, Donald et al welcoming him at the Pearly Gates! But I'm still hoping for a last-minute miracle.......
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I don't think I've ever met him, but I sympathize with those who've gone through cancer. I'll be praying for
him. All my love to his family, as well. I know this is hard for them. ~DJ
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I'm sorry to hear this. Craig is such an exceptional friend to DS and a wonderful person...
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It's so strange, though- earlier today I found out that a co-worker became a father for the first time last night. And in the space of one day I have to contemplate the start of one life and the possible end of one.
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I know Craig feels strongly about people educating themselves about being screened for certain types of really sneaky cancer. My father died of one such sneaky cancer - the type that gets detected only after it has spread unless you specifically request a screening. Craig has written about this subject on his website and I encourage everyone to read it.
http://www.darkshadowsonline.com/about_site.html
He also has a site for his photography at http://www.craighamrick.com. If you haven't already, you should check out the websites of this talented man.
He has written about the detection and battle with colon cancer throughout the website. He recently updated the site to include some of his memories of this past festival.
A really interesting essay Craig has on the website is what DS did for him as a child growing up gay in Kansas. He identified with the characters of Victoria Winters who was searching for her identity and that of Barnabas Collins, who had a secret he wanted to hide.
Do check out the sites for this interesting material.
Nancy
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Will Keep Craig and his family in my thoughts and prayers..
I've never met him but it feels like i have....
Love Anne :'(
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I, like Annie, have never met Craig, but after reading his essay on the site, he is a very intelligent person. I think everyone of us should say a prayer for Craig, Joe, his mother, stepfather and his brother.
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Craig's energy level at the Fest was a great surprise to him, he'd had very low energy for nearly a month. And he'd been given bad news just prior to the Fest about the amount of cancer in his system, and that the experimental treatment from Sloan-Kettering was ineffective. He's said to me and others here that he has no regrets, he's had the life he dreamed of as a child with his photography and writing in New York City, and finding a supportive and loving life partner, Joe. We should all feel so blessed but yes, this is sad news to me who's been lucky to call Craig my friend.
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Sending prayers out to Craig and his loved ones. I know how hard a time it is. Blessings to Craig and his loved ones. I know him mainly by reputation, and he's always struck me as a genuinely wonderful person. Sad news to hear.
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How tragic to hear. It is comforting that Craig has no regrets and had a life he dreamed of. Most of us cannot say the same. I will keep Craig,Joe and family in my prayers. I guess we never really know the exact time we leave this earth but I'm sure he is going to have a wonderful new journey in a much more peaceful place.
Teresa
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I had just finished reading Craig's wonderful book, Barnabas & Company, this very morning, then logged on to read about his declining health. My thoughts and prayers go out to him, his partner, Joe, and his family. His kindness comes through so well in his writing. May he find gentle peace in this time of need.
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My best wishes and prayers to Craig, Joe and their loved ones. I, too, was amazed at how good he looked at the fest and I truly regret not being able to talk to him.
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I know from personal experience how difficult this time can be. My thoughts and prayers go out to Craig and his family....
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That's terrible news about Craig, and coming so soon after the Festival. :'( I remember being relieved to learn he was at the event because it seemed that he was getting better. However, I agree with Springsteena that it's wonderful to know he was able to live the life he wanted. He's given so much to us DS fans over the years. I will certainly give him and his loved ones my prayers.
ProfStokes
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Our thoughts and prayers our out there, kid. Please be well. ::smooch!::
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It was wonderful seeing Craig at the Fest. I hope that the thoughts and prayers of everyone connected with Dark Shadows will be of some support to Craig and his loved ones now.
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Craig is indeed a great guy. I'm thankful I had a chance to speak with him for a short time at the Festival. I wish Craig, Joe and their families only the best at this very difficult time.
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i don't believe i've met craig...is he the tall fellow with the reddish hair who sort of "hosts" the fests?
no matter...i wish him and his partner and family all the best in a difficult time.
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Forgive me if I do this wrong I have never posted here before. Phoebe is my dog's name some of you know my real name is Janet. Craig and I have been best of friends for 13 years. Craig is the most amazing human I have ever meet. He moved from a small town in the mid-west to New York City so he could openly be who he was created to be. When he first found out about his Cancer he told me I want to do everything and see everything I can, and he did. He traveled to places he wanted to see and got to enjoy one of his passions in life, taking pictures, Never once did I ever hear him say he felt sorry for himself. There was a dream Craig talked about years ago, there was really only one thing he dearly wanted and that was to meet and have a life with his soulmate. And tonight I am not only praying for my dear friend but for the soulmate that made Craig's dream come true, Joe. I am not a writer, and there is no way I could express my love for Craig in words. Right now I am just grateful he is with Joe. I celebrate Craig's life, he told me he has no regrets and that he felt he was lucky to live the life he has lived. Of course I pray for a miracle but tonight I will get into bed look to the left of me at a picture of Craig and I at Louie Edmonds house and say good night Will, Grace will love you forever.
Thank you for reading this
Janet
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Janet,
Craig and Joe are both lucky to have you in their lives. You are a dear and genuine person. Thank you for everything today it meant a lot to share in the affection and admiration we have for Craig and Craig and Joe collectively. EVERYTHING you say here is 100% true.
Know Peter and I are here for you if you need anything.
Warmly,
John
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This is terrible. I was only at the fest for a day, but had corresponded with Craig in some emails a couple of months ago. I kept trying to find an opportunity to say hi, but he was either busy at his table with others, or not at his table! So I didn't get the chance to properly say hello in person.
I don't really know the man, but it sounds like he is facing this with a lot of courage and positivity, and I admire him for it.
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Dear Joe:
please come to a Dark Shadows festival so we can hug you and tell you how much we loved Craig.
David
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Joe was there albeit briefly this past festival in Brooklyn. I wish we had gotten to spend some more time together with both he and Craig. We were in a hurry to get to rehearsal for the skit. However, Joe and Peter did get some alone time to catch up. I will make sure (as will Janet I am sure) will forward the outpouring of love to Joe, Craig, and there family as soon as we can. You guys have really been an amazing support. Just to type this right now has given me some comfort.
Thanks for that.
John
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I'm very devastated to hear this news. I really was hoping for a full recovery for Craig when he showed up at the Fest. I was very happy he made it there.
I am hoping and praying for a miracle. My love and best wishes to his close friends and family during this most difficult time.
luv, victoriawinters
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I am so sorry to hear this. Craig and his loved ones will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Forgive me if I do this wrong I have never posted here before.
You did fine Janet! ;) Like Janet I have known Craig for 13 years, we first met at the 1993 NY Festival. Over the years Craig has been a wonderful friend who I've had some great times with. It was through Craig that I got to meet Louie Edmonds on a more personal basis (the Fests really aren't where one meets the stars normally). Janet, Craig and I spent New Year's weekend w/Louis in 1994 in Greenich Village where we had lunch at The Slaughtered Lamb (Janet and I got there early because we were too embarressed to be caught w/ketchup on our chins in front of Big Lou, LOL!) and then Louie took us around the corner to one of his favortive little bistros where he treated us to desert and coffee--I had the BEST Cappachino (sp?) I've ever had in this place.
The following day Louie graciously hosted us in his Upper West Side apartment where we watched Dark Shadows and had dinner. At the end of the evening as he walked us to the door he said, very enthusiastically, "Well, if THIS is a fan club, I'm all for it!!" ;) The evening after that Craig and I again had dinner w/Louie and went w/him to buy a new pair of walking shoes. I'll never forget watching Louie dance to a steal drum in the subway station! ;)
It was also through Craig that many of us, Phoebe/Janet, Karlenfan, Bobubas etc...got to meet and spend significant time w/Nancy Barrett at her very first Fest in 1997. We were her security crew and got to attend her rehersal the day before the Fest and to be backstage while she performed her cabaret. We all then were treated to an impromptu after party in our room w/Nancy and some of the other stars like Lara, KLS, Chris Pennock, Johnny Karlen and Ross Skipper (cameraman).
Craig is a VERY generous and sweet man who has impressed the hell out of me the past five years in his fight against cancer. Most ppl with his ailments would have been dead years ago, but Craig is a fighter and because of that and his positive attitude, he is still here w/us today.
Sending prayers and good thoughts/energy your way Craig, if anyone can beat it, you can!
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Thank you Nancy. I had my colon tested today. And recently had a hysterectomy I went to my Gyn twice a year. This year they found something and they were able to get. Please people health tests are very important.
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Thank you John/Peter. I have known Peter for along time. I remember the Vegas fest so well, Peter was to young to go near the slots and we had so much fun with that. Now he is a grown man, where does time go? Peter has a talent so great it must come from a Higher Power and like Craig has been given a special gift. To be able to find that soulmate he was put on the earth to meet. I just meet John at the recent fest for the first time. Although I felt like I knew him for years since I heard all about him. It was John I first talked to when I learned Craig was losing his battle. Barely knowing me he gave me great comfort and still is. Peter dear, I love ya. you and Craig are two of the lucky ones in life. There is such a thing as soulmates. I know this because of Joe and Craig and you and John.
Janet
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Janet,
I somehow missed seeing you at the festival. I have been thinking and praying for you as well as I know from you (and Craig) what a wonderful friendship you have had for many years. I know this is terribly difficult for you. Friends feel so helpless in this kind of situation. I don't have your email address anymore either. Take care.
nancy
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Thank you John/Peter. I have known Peter for a long time. I remember the Vegas fest so well, Peter was to young to go near the slots and we had so much fun with that. Now he is a grown man, where does time go?
Tell me about it! I've known Peter since 1990, when he was TWELVE ppl! ;) I've literally watched him, and CrazyJenny for that matter, grow up! I remember how surreal it was back in the late 90's, '98 I think it was, when I went up to visit Karlenfan and we met up w/StarryAstrid and Peter in a bar for cocktails and thinking to myself, I remember when this kid could only drink soda pop! ;)
There is such a thing as soulmates. I know this because of Joe and Craig and you and John.
I agree wholeheartedly w/this. And I can't think of anyone I'd want w/either Craig or Peter than Joe & John. ;)
Thank you Nancy. I had my colon tested today. And recently had a hysterectomy I went to my Gyn twice a year. This year they found something and they were able to get. Please people health tests are very important.
VERY true! My poor boss's wife was terrified of the doctor and therefore NEVER went. As such, she never knew she'd developed Diabetes and because she was untreated for years, because she never knew, she died very suddenly last summer. Woman was only in her mid-50's too, and the sweatest person you'd ever want to meet. Knowing this, I get checked at least once a year, from head to toe. ;) Prevention is the key folks.
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Janet,
I somehow missed seeing you at the festival. I have been thinking and praying for you as well as I know from you (and Craig) what a wonderful friendship you have had for many years. I know this is terribly difficult for you. Friends feel so helpless in this kind of situation. I don't have your email address anymore either. Take care.
You lost a dear friend also at a young age, I still feel that loss. I don't even look at my DS video's anymore because of that. Thank you for taking the time to write, I apprectiate it so much.
Janet
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You lost a dear friend also at a young age,
Unfortunately we've all lost quite a few dear DS friends. The ones I think of often are Angie Samaras (although I actually never met Angie, I know her sister Helen very well), Eric and Carol Chirrcho (sp?), who were AWESOME ppl, Dave Brown and most recently Dean Wilson, aka Wolfboy on IRC, just to name a few.
Dean was a very dear friend who died suddenly 2 years ago in October. I'll always cherish him, his friendship and all the hysterical times we all had together, especially on a trip to Fire Island in June of 1998. Our 'fireplace' antics still bring a smile to my face. That night we'd all had TOO much to drink, and the goofiness that resulted from it is the stuff of legend. My latest novel is dedicated to him.
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My prayers and good wishes are with Craig Hamrick and all those close to him at this most difficult time.
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My heart, thoughts, prayers....everything....go out to Craig and his loved ones. He was always wonderful to me. I remember meeting him I guess it was in 93. I was thinking 92. He was always so funny and silly. I'm so glad I got to see him this summer.
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To Craig, Joe, Peter, John, Janet and all of his extended Family here and there.
my heart felt well wishes and prayers for all of you going thru this most difficult of times.
I know how hard it is to watch some one you love suffer
My prayers for ease and peace.
LdyAnne
<lighting a candle and sending a rose>@--->----
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Buzz,
how did you know Eric & Carol?
I knew them well!
Carol & I both went on Diana Millay's Egypt trip in '88.
I believe Eric is still with us, in Florida, but no longer keeps in touch with fandom.
they were/are terrfic people.
David
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Buzz,
how did you know Eric & Carol? I knew them well! Carol & I both went on Diana Millay's Egypt trip in '88. I believe Eric is still with us, in Florida, but no longer keeps in touch with fandom. They were/are terrfic people.
I knew them from Fests. I was led to believe that Eric had also died! My apologies if I've erroneously put him in his grave! But I *am* happy to hear he is alive and well! ;)
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I am so shocked! I thought Craig had beaten the cancer; I didn't know he was still battling it. I feel so rotten for him and his family. I met Craig at the 2003 Brooklyn festival and got to chat with him for some time (he had just pretty much gotten there so there weren't a lot of other people by his table; Diana Millay was sharing it with him, so I got to meet her, too). He autographed the books of his that I purchased. He was so nice and friendly to me. My thoughts and sincere wishes go with him and his loved ones. It never hurts to hold out hope that things will still turn around; please, let it be so.
Gerard
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Gerard, thank you for those kind words about Craig. Craig's first operation removed the colon cancer that was 4 years ago. But over the years the cancer kept coming back to different area's. According to Craig he reacted well to the new drugs that Katie Courtic (sp) help make legal in the USA. Those new drugs helped his body to destory lung cancer and other cancers in his body. He told me she gave him his extra years. Last Summer we almost lost him to blot clots, he is still battling those. The brain cancer was dealt with and he healed fast from that and was able to come to this last fest. This is a very tried soul. It certainly lived each day like the song says " Live like you are dieing"
Phoebe/Janet
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I am really sorry to hear the news about Craig. I had hoped that he would have more time. I was constantly praying for God to give him more time with us. Was so glad to see him at the festival, and we had a chance to chat awhile, and I had 2 pictures taken with him! I sent him the pictures in the mail, but I don't know if he ever saw them. I wanted it to be more personal than just having them online, although I sent him some that way, too. He had last written to me on 8/31, and that was the last I'd heard from him. I kind of knew something was up, as I never heard from him again after that. Then I heard from my friend Rosella that he was in hospice, and I was so disturbed. I hope he knows how much we think of him, how much we love him, I hope he feels that everyday. I think his updated version of "Barnabas & Co." is just coming out next month. How I wish he could be with us to see that. I know, though, that he will see it no matter what, God must have a special place for this very special friend of ours. God Bless you and Joe, and your family, Love always, Rick
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This is sad news. I pray for his recovery and pray that a loving creator will show him mercy
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Gerard, thank you for those kind words about Craig. Craig's first operation removed the colon cancer that was 4 years ago. But over the years the cancer kept coming back to different area's. According to Craig he reacted well to the new drugs that Katie Courtic (sp) help make legal in the USA. Those new drugs helped his body to destory lung cancer and other cancers in his body. He told me she gave him his extra years. Last Summer we almost lost him to blot clots, he is still battling those. The brain cancer was dealt with and he healed fast from that and was able to come to this last fest. This is a very tried soul. It certainly lived each day like the song says " Live like you are dieing"
Janet, when I was at the 2003 fest and came upon Craig's table, he was still pretty much setting up, not only his own items, but helping with Diana Millay's as well (and she turned out to be rather a character; she was rushing trying to get things done and was a bit demanding, so things were a bit hectic for him). On the rare occasions when I've been able to meet celebrities, I try not to be a "star-struck hog," and consume all their time. Obviously, they have to deal with that all the time and I'm sure it can be trying. So I try to just tell them how much I appreciate the happiness they've brought me, and then move on so as not to be in their way. I tried doing that with Craig, since he was so obviously busy. But he would have none of that. He took time out to ask me questions about myself (as if I was really an interesting person to him), to have a friendly conversation of true substance (he asked a gazillion questions when he discovered that I had just disembarked in NYC that day from a cruise to Bermuda, envying my tan), even though he had so much to do - displays needed to be put up, boxes needed to be unpacked, and Miss Millay needed tending to. It didn't matter to him; what mattered was showing friendliness and time to a bothersome fan. As we conversed, it was becoming apparent that Miss Millay was becoming a bit more frazzled trying to get things done. I asked, feeling a tad guilty, if I could be of service. She immediately handed me armsful of books and stands and pointed, saying: "Put these over here, and those over there." As I did so, he just looked at me and gave a mischievious giggle, as if to say: "You shouldn't have asked! Now you're in for the long haul!"
Gerard
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I am really at a loss for words. Being a long time Fest attendee, I remember speaking to Craig many times. Craig is such a nice person and is so understanding of fans and people and it is always great to see a person filled with tremendous enthusiasm for Dark Shadows and for life. I will say a prayer for Craig and his family and for his many friends.
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Craig & I met around 1993 through our mutual friend Big Lou~~Louis Edmonds.
To put it mildly, I was not an easy person to be around back then~~I was suffering from the highs and lows of undiagnosed, untreated manic depression~~AKA bi-polar disorder.
After seeing Craig at Louis' house a few times, the three of us went to a few movies together.
I recall being a nervous, out of conrol wreck every time, but Craig, bless him, never held this against me.
A few years later, for no reason at all, I decided that Craig was not a nice person, that he was doing "this, that and the other thing".
I actually remember exactly what I thought & said of him, all of it nonsense brought on by my disease, but I'll keep that to myself.
Suffice to say that I wasn't very nice to him.
(he wasn't the only one)
I now take meds three times a day.
Thank God, I'm now symptom free.
Sane again!
When I approached Craig at his fest table one year and tried to make ammends, he stood up and embraced me!!!
To this day, there are people who hold my disease~~a treatable medical condition~~against me as though it were a crime.
Not Craig Hamrick.
Those of you who think Craig is a nice guy don't know the half of it.
Craig is a very special, and loving human being.
God Bless you, Craig.
I will never forget you.
David N
SF CA (Formerly of Hoboken NJ)
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David I am glad you are on the road to wellness.
I find my mind wandering the last few days and have been trying to keep creative. Which is another thing I learned from Craig. He was able to channel energy even when he couldn;t get off th ecouch...to write...to work on the website..e.tc. So I am updating our website, You Tube, etc... However, I just can't shake this and Peter is trying to get me out of my funk.
Janet, Peter, and I will all pass on the words of comfort to Craig and/or Joe when we see them next week.
Thankjs,
JOhn
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My thoughts are with Craig,Joe his family and all who know and love him. Elmont...
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I just realized something: who will take care of Dark Shadows Online? Also, Craig was planning to put out the new edition of Barnabas & Co. next month. I suppose he made longterm plans for the maintenance of his site and his book in case things got terminal, but I never thought this soon......
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Charles,
My first reaction here is one of anger...when I need to keep the love and positive energy flowing.
The least of any of our concerns right now is the maintenance of the website or the book re-release.
After taking a couple of deep breaths here...I am going to soften the blow.
CHARLES LOOK PAST DS for a moment and see that there is a human being here. One who has touched our lives through DS...perhaps that is the only way for you. However, he is much more than that. He is funny and talented and loving and compassionate.
Craig's legacy will live on and there are many people to make sure of that. So if you are concerned about these projects...get over it.
I have rewritten this email so many times as I want to keep the positive energy moving for Craig.
Janet and Anna I am sure you are feelling this is completley inappropriate a post for this prayer circle as Peter and I do. Please ask the moderator to move it to a new thread...but at least off this one here.
Charles I wish you the best in dealing with this. I know you are human as well. But really please think before you type.
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Guys- my concern was that all that he worked for survives him, as a kind of tesament to all the great work he did as an author. As a history buff, I compare it to say, William Shakespeare dying without anyone preserving his sonnets or Hamlet or any of his dramatic works. To infer that I am being insensitive is way off the mark! Twelve years ago I watched my Uncle Bill die of liver cancer, and it broke my heart to see a strapping six-footer who once weighed over 200 pounds waste away- such a fate I wouldn't wish on anyone. He was one of the nicest people I knew, and his loss still hurts to this day. So I only know too well what Craig's family and Joe are going through right now. The last thing I would want to do is to upset anyone at this point. And I thought you guys knew me better.
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At a time like this, people's emotions run wild, but everyone means well.
Let's all take a deep breath.
"Just For Today I will not worry
Just For Today I will not be angry
Just for today, I will honor my parents, teachers and
elders,
Just for today, I will show gratitude to everything"
~~~~~Master Mikao Usui
teacher of the ancient healing
art of Reiki
David
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I've known Craig for eight years now... I've been trying to think of something to write for a couple of days now, without any luck. Anyway, here's a moment that I think sums him up perfectly.
Over the last couple of years, Craig travelled to London a couple of times with his partner Joe, and when he was in town, we'd catch up for lunch and gossip. So, last summer, we spent an afternoon in Trafalgar Square, in the blazing sunshine, chatting about life and work, kitsch TV and Big Brother. Something made him touch on his illness, and he shrugged "Well, I know I'll be like this for life," as if he didn't have a care in the world. And I really think he didn't.
That moment will stay with me forever. There was an amazing thing - a man completely at peace with himself and the inevitable. It was easy to forget Craig's health, because he had made his peace with it a long time ago. No anger, no regret, no sadness - just an ordinary guy who enjoyed the world, his partner, and was having a great time doing so.
Honestly, I don't think you can mourn a life as well-lived as Craig's. At the moment I'm scared of losing my friend, but I know how very lucky I've been to know him.
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Very well articulated, Stuart. A lovely tribute to a friend for whom we pray for a miracle, of course, realizing at the same time it may not go the way we want.
I don't even remember when I first got to know Craig. He is such an unassuming person. I think I knew "of" him before I met and got to know him. What impressed me was his utter joy at being involved in the fandom the way he was, writing about actors on DS he admired and getting to know them was a side benefit he did not expect. People in such a position are targets for the jealous/envious type of folks but that didn't govern any part of how he ran his involvement with the fandom, the actors and other fans. If a fan wanted advice or some kind of help from Craig and he could provide it, he would gladly give it. There isn't any snobbery about Craig which some people in his position in fandom might have. He tends to take on the human qualities of good experiences rather than use them to toot his own horn or act like he is such a big deal.
Craig has always realized that it's not who you know and interact with that makes you important, it's the kind of person that you are and how you treat others. I've known him to be a very kind person and, as Stuart and others have said, Craig has known for a long time this battle with cancer might not be one that he could win. But he's won a much bigger battle: being a good person in a world that can make it very hard to be a good person.
Nancy
I've known Craig for eight years now... I've been trying to think of something to write for a couple of days now, without any luck. Anyway, here's a moment that I think sums him up perfectly.
Over the last couple of years, Craig travelled to London a couple of times with his partner Joe, and when he was in town, we'd catch up for lunch and gossip. So, last summer, we spent an afternoon in Trafalgar Square, in the blazing sunshine, chatting about life and work, kitsch TV and Big Brother. Something made him touch on his illness, and he shrugged "Well, I know I'll be like this for life," as if he didn't have a care in the world. And I really think he didn't.
That moment will stay with me forever. There was an amazing thing - a man completely at peace with himself and the inevitable. It was easy to forget Craig's health, because he had made his peace with it a long time ago. No anger, no regret, no sadness - just an ordinary guy who enjoyed the world, his partner, and was having a great time doing so.
Honestly, I don't think you can mourn a life as well-lived as Craig's. At the moment I'm scared of losing my friend, but I know how very lucky I've been to know him.
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Honestly, I don't think you can mourn a life as well-lived as Craig's. At the moment I'm scared of losing my friend, but I know how very lucky I've been to know him.
Thank you Stuart. I will show Craig your post tomorrow. I have told you how he feels about you personal and proffesional. And by reading your post I can see how he feels that way. You are truley an old soul. I am sure Dean is whispering in Craig's ear " I am waiting for you friend, but take your time coming"
Janet
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Recently Craig told me that he had wished he could have had a gallary showing of his photo's. I can only assume he wanted people to see his work. I hope he gets to see this thread started by his friend John. Because his work has been seen, it has touched people's lives. He will live on though his words. So many people have said such kind, loving and supportive things about him.
Right now I am in my own private hell. I can't even think of a life without him. Without his humor, his wisdom, and his love. I am trying to just think of the funny times we had, like bursting into his room at a fest and telling him to move over so I could sleep because my roomates were snoring.
When my daughter was born Craig bought her the book "The Wizard Of Oz" Craig was from kansas.He wrote in it, "To Kaitlyn, may you always follow your own yellow brick road" To all of you that have sent your support to me though whatever means you have. We never know how much time we will have. So, please follow your own yellow brick road, I am so proud of my dear friend, my Will, he lived his life just the way he wanted to. He left Kansas at 23 because he refused to live in the closet. I know, that the most special thing I could say about Craig, that would make him proud that I said it is..My friend Craig lived the life of a proud Gay man.
Your words mean so much to me
Janet
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Janet, Peter, and I will all pass on the words of comfort to Craig and/or Joe when we see them next week.
You guys have been a great help to me though this. I am there for you both also. We will get though this tragedy together. I feel like God has sent you to me. I will be grateful to you both, forever.
janet
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Craig has my prayer for a complete recovery. The Lord provides, and I pray He will watch over Craig and heal him.
Misty
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The next installment of my Scary Reviews column in Scary Monsters Mag will be dedicated to Craig.
I'm also going to talk to my editor at Videoscope Mag about doing a tribute to Craig there.
I hope Craig, Joe & their loved ones are doing OK today.
David
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I am very sorry to hear about this. (just now seeing this because I have been offline for the past five days) My prayers are with Craig, Joe, and their loved ones.
Heartfully, Steve
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Please excuse my late reply on this one. I haven't been over here since before the fest (combination of health issues, overtime and what I've finally given up and call my yearly 9/11 meltdown) so I am just seeing this now.
I've only had a couple of brief conversations with him, but my memory is of a very nice, friendly guy. Reading through the posts from all of you who know Craig well, my heart is breaking for you. I only hope that he knows how much all of you think of him and treasure him -- not because of who he knows, or the things he's done for the fandom, but for the kind of person he IS. He sounds like the kind of friend everyone hopes they can have. Like everyone else, my thoughts and prayers are with him, his partner and his family, but unfortunately it sounds like the kindest thing we can hope for him is a release from his pain, in whatever form that release can come.
I'm not going to insult those of you who were close to him by telling you that I know how you feel, and mouth the platitudes that always come to mind in circumstances like these. I can't know exactly how each of you feels -- all I can offer is sympathy and empathy, based on knowing how it felt when I lost my best friend of nearly thirty years, suddenly, not quite two years ago.
The only ray of light I can see in this situation is, in reading everyone's posts, the thread that shines through is that Craig made his life COUNT -- he did things that he wanted to do, things that made him happy and he leaves no regrets for things undone or unsaid.
I'd better end this here, I'm starting to blither..... [sad10]
HUGS to all of you....
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I spent the day with Craig while Joe had to work. The hositial is making him comfortable. And Joe and I got to spend some time together he is very grateful for all your kind and supportive posts. He also asked for to be sent the link to this site so he could read each thread. Please know, he knows about this site and it is comforting to him that Craig and his work means so much to many people.
Janet
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Thanks for the update, Janet :)
Nancy
I spent the day with Craig while Joe had to work. The hositial is making him comfortable. And Joe and I got to spend some time together he is very grateful for all your kind and supportive posts. He also asked for to be sent the link to this site so he could read each thread. Please know, he knows about this site and it is comforting to him that Craig and his work means so much to many people.
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I am so sorry to hear about Craig's relapse, my prayers to him and his family.
And in defense of Charles, I am sure he did not mean any offense by enquiring what might happen to Craig's DS sites---they are indeed a lovely tribute to a man who did a lot for DSfandom, but of course the most important thing right now is Craig's health...
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my thoughts and prayers are with him and God Bless him for thinking of others at a time like this
jennifer
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While I'm sure there are a wide range of diverse faiths represented by members of the Dark Shadows community and all who have occasion to read this board, it's probable that many would agree, that love is the strongest power in the universe. Love is the power behind all creation. Love heals.
Much has been written, and studies conducted, re: the power of prayer - also the effects of mass consciousness as a means of change.
It is obvious that Mr. Hamrick is loved by many and thought highly of by those who don't even know him personally. While the soul's purpose at this moment in time must be respected, might I suggest that one of his close friends obtain his permission, and if so granted, everyone with the desire to participate, engage in a mass prayer undertaking? If this forum is not the suitable place, another message board could easily be set up for communication purposes (if necessary).
I'm talking about serious, persistent prayer to affect healing - in whatever form of prayer it takes with each individual. Thoughts are important as well. Here and there I've seen comments being made that refer to Craig in a past sort of tense as if he has already passed -as if the whole thing is a fait accompli. Thoughts are things. They have a power and a energy of their own, and in combination with similar-type thoughts can have an undesired effect.
Who knows what the forces of many may have? At the very least, the sending of love and positive energy can only be a good.
Perhaps in addition to constant and persistent prayer, specific times could be set up when everyone participating might, for instance, do creative visualization such as white healing light surrounding and entering through the top of his head, and driving the undesirable and unwanted cells out; that type of thing.
Once again, it would have to be with his knowledge and consent, maybe even his participation - being open and ready to receive.
Would people be interested? If so, maybe someone with some experience in healing/healing group activities, or someone close to him, could organize it.
Blessings
:)
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ould people be interested?
Definitely interested. Wonderful idea!
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I'm a prayer warrior!!!
I'd be more than happy to be involved!!!
Please let us all know!
~JosettesMusicBox
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count me in I know prayer, positive focused energy works mircles
LdyAnne
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The next installment of my Scary Reviews column in Scary Monsters Mag will be dedicated to Craig.
I am sure he would be touched by that David. Thank you
Janet
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What's really lovely about DS Boards is the total lack of judgement and complete acceptance here.
It's pretty obvious that we have a mix of gay/straight posters, plus various religious persausions.
But all are welcomed and loved equally, as it should be.
People here, regardless of who/what they are, really do understand what God wants from each of us, and don't we all come from the same source, after all?
Count me in, prayer works!
I'll check this thread 2-3 times a day to see when the prayer time is.
Wherever I am at that moment, I'll be joining in!
David
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Well, I guess the best thing would be to pray as often as possible.
Also, if there were maybe 3 specific times a day that people could stop, offer a prayer, then do a healing visualization, that might offer a strength in numbers.
I'm suggesting 3 different times so that people with their different schedules will be able to hit at least one of the times. (2 times would be even better, etc.)
How about: 11am, 5 pm, 11pm Eastern
Of course if you're on the west coast:
8 am, 2pm, 8 pm
Central & Mountain, or if you're in Europe, figure it out.
Since it seems there's a greater power in numbers, spread the word to other DS message boards you belong to.
Also, I googled "healing groups" and found one called The Osel Group where between 400 and 800 Buddhist monks will pray for you. (!) So I requested healing prayer for Craig. If a bunch of people could submit his name to other healing groups, that would really increase the number of prayers. I had better luck with "healing groups" than I did with "prayer groups". There seem to be tons of them but there's a lot of prayer stuff that has nothing to do with healing.
So, does this sound reasonable? I don't know much about this type of thing and less about organizing it.
:)
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So sorry to hear about Craig Hamrick. I regret never meeting him. But he sounds like a wonderful guy. My thoughts are with his family and friends at this time. I hope these prayers work! That would be wonderful! I hope he can make a full recovery to attend the next DS Fest!
----- Sally -----
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I will be glad to join in the daily prayer for Craig. I also put his name on a prayer site I know of.
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I'm suggesting 3 different times so that people with their different schedules will be able to hit at least one of the times. (2 times would be even better, etc.)
How about: 11am, 5 pm, 11pm Eastern
Of course if you're on the west coast:
8 am, 2pm, 8 pm
Central & Mountain, or if you're in Europe, figure it out.
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I'm in, Eastern time. Thanks for the suggestion regarding the different time zones, same thing I was thinking.
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Connie, this is a WONDERFUL idea. I know many folks who have been greatly helped by such prayers.
hugs, Steve
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I think the gesture is lovely especially since the thread is asking for prayers.
However, at this juncture, private prayer is probably the best way to go. Having time to organize and sychronize just isn't available. There isn't much time left. It is beyond Craig's present capacity to participate, let alone give permission, for any spiritual undertaking on his behalf. This is what conversations with his caregivers indicate to me.
As Janet, Craig's dear friend, indicated above, Craig made his peace and it is his life partner and family who need the support. Keeping a sad vigil is nasty business but that's where it's at right now. When the time is right, info on how to contact Joe Salvatore and Craig's family will be made public, I'm sure.
It's nice to see so many people care. That will be a blessing for others to know.
Nancy
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I heard this song yesterday and was struck by how much it applied to Craig and how he has lived his life.
I Hope You Dance by Lee Ann Womack
I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat
But always keep that hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
God forbid love ever leave you empty handed
I hope you still feel small
When you stand by the ocean
Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
Promise me you'll give fate a fighting chance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance
I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Living might mean taking chances
But they're worth taking
Lovin' might be a mistake
But it's worth making
Don't let some hell bent heart
Leave you bitter
When you come close to selling out
Reconsider
Give the heavens above
More than just a passing glance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
(Time is a wheel in constant motion always)
I hope you dance
(Rolling us along)
I hope you dance
(Tell me who)
I hope you dance
(Wants to look back on their years and wonder)
(Where those years have gone)
I hope you still feel small
When you stand by the ocean
Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
Promise me you'll give faith a fighting chance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
Dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance
(Time is a wheel in constant motion always)
I hope you dance
(Rolling us along)
I hope you dance
(Tell me who)
(Wants to look back on their years and wonder)
I hope you dance
(Where those years have gone)
(Tell me who)
I hope you dance
(Wants to look back on their years and wonder)
(Where those years have gone)
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I am not really a computer person. Could someone do me a favor and put the words to the song by Tim McGraw "Live Like You Were Dieing" the last few years Craig related to this song and it so fitting about his life. I would like Joe to also see the words also
Thanks for all the support
Janet
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I just did a quick search.
The song lyrics to Live Like You Were Dying are at
Tim McGraw.com
You'll find them a lot faster by searching the song title & McGraw's name simultaneously
David
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I will be glad to join in the daily prayer for Craig. I also put his name on a prayer site I know of
Thanks Castlebee, Craig and I are animal people ourselves, him cats, me dogs. I love that little one of yours. And also all prays are welcome, right now that is all the medicine we have.
Janet/phoebe poodle
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Artist: Tim McGraw
Album: Live Like You Were Dying
Song: Live Like You Were Dying
Lyrics:
He said I was in my early forties
with a lot of life before me
when a moment came that stopped me on a dime
and I spent most of the next days
looking at the x-rays
Talking bout the options
and talking bout sweet time
I asked him when it sank in
that this might really be the real end
how's it hit you when you get that kinda news
man what'd you do
and he said
I went sky diving
I went Rocky Mountain climbing
I went 2.7 seconds on a bull named FuManchu
and I loved deeper and I spoke sweeter
and I gave forgiveness I'd been denying
and he said someday I hope you get the chance
to live like you were dying.
He said I was finally the husband
that most the time I wasn't
and I became a friend a friend would like to have
and all the sudden going fishin
wasn't such an imposition
and I went three times that year I lost my dad
well I finally read the good book
and I took a good long hard look
at what I'd do if I could do it all again
and then
I went sky diving
I went Rocky Mountain climbing
I went 2.7 seconds on a bull named FuManchu
and I loved deeper and I spoke sweeter
and I gave forgiveness I'd been denying
and he said someday I hope you get the chance
to live like you were dying.
Like tomorrow was a gift and you got eternity to think about
what'd you do with it what did you do with it
what did I do with it
what would I do with it'
Sky diving
I went Rocky Mountain climbing
I went 2.7 seconds on a bull named FuManchu
and then I loved deeper and I spoke sweeter
and I watched an eagle as it was flying
and he said someday I hope you get the chance
to live like you were dying.
To live like you were dying
To live like you were dying
To live like you were dying
To live like you were dying
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Thank you I grew up in NYC so that song means alot to me. I watch Tug McGraw pitch for years. And the song his son wrote is now extra special to me. I would like the words to that song printed out on this site if someone could do that for me I would apprecite it since I don't know how.
Thanks
Janet
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Craig and I are animal people ourselves, him cats, me dogs.
Janet/phoebe poodle
I love both cats and dogs myself and lament the fact that I can't have a houseful! Yes, I'd be one of those crazy ladies with a boatload of cats and dogs and proud of it. It seems that I only restrain myself in the interest of the animals since I want to be able to care for them properly and a boatload doesn't work for the animals or my budget.
I have not been one of the lucky ones - as several on the board have been - to have had the honor of knowing or even briefly meeting Craig. Two years ago in Tarrytown I spoke with his mother when I went to his booth to buy one of his books. I wanted to get him to sign it but, she said he was upstairs resting. I was planning to go back the next day but, never made it.
For some reason and based on things I've read here, on his site, etc. it doesn't surprise me that he is a cat person. My theory on cat people is that they have the ability to appreciate beauty, individuality and to live and let live. They tend to be intelligent and non-controlling. At least, those are some of the lessons I've learned from my late cats. This is all simply an impression but, I would be willing to bet that Craig is a lot like that. God bless him on his journey - because that is what I am convinced we are all on. Some of us are just a bit further down the road than others.
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Thank you, that was the way Craig lived his life. It wasn't even a month ago he was at the fest, he went to Europe, lived in Ireland the last three July's. Saw Brazil, took his photo's kept on writing he wrote his TV trivia book while he was taking his chemo treatments. Like Dean he gave back to society why are they taken at 40, I don't know. I do know I will never forget either of them. Especially when I hear this song.
Janet
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You write beautifully Castlebee. Please, when you have the time do a search on Craig Hamrick and see the wonderful pictures he took of his cats Buster and Dusty. He lives on in his work especially his photos they are so good you can actually feel the love he had for those animals and life.
Janet
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I'm not a religious person. But I am keeping Craig in my heart and hope that he will find love and joy wherever his footfalls take him. Peace to you, brother.
::mega,mega, mega hug::
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I was just looking at Craig's non-DS site, craighamrick.com
His photos are lovely and I urge everyone to take a look.
Also check out craigandjoe.com
to see the work that Craig and his lover did together,
That site has a sweet pic of them together.
and JoeSalvatore.com is Joe's own site.
these guys did wonderful work, separately and together.
David
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Thank you David for posting that. These are two gifted people. Each picture tells a story. Joe is a very talent artist and I am proud to know this man. Craig got sick very soon in the relationship there are people out there that would have ran. But not Joe he loves Craig and stood by his side though the hell of Cancer. I consider Joe a miracle. I know this man, I have seen him holding Craig's hand Monday as sad as the whole thing is. That moment was a touching act of love I will never forget it will give me peace when Craig passes because I know how deeply he was loved. . Joe is working, directing, teaching, taking care of Craig's family and his own, the house, the cats, contacting people, this is a special man.
Janet
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Wow, Joe sounds like he is probably one tired man too! Whew! Talk about a full plate!
I know from Craig that Joe is a gifted teacher and stage director. Glad to know Joe is such a great guy too.
nancy
Thank you David for posting that. These are two gifted people. Each picture tells a story. Joe is a very talent artist and I am proud to know this man. Craig got sick very soon in the relationship there are people out there that would have ran. But not Joe he loves Craig and stood by his side though the hell of Cancer. I consider Joe a miracle. I know this man, I have seen him holding Craig's hand Monday as sad as the whole thing is. That moment was a touching act of love I will never forget it will give me peace when Craig passes because I know how deeply he was loved. . Joe is working, directing, teaching, taking care of Craig's family and his own, the house, the cats, contacting people, this is a special man.
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Let me second Janet (Phoebe)'s emotion. I to can attest that these are deeply connected souls. They have treate Peter and I with dignity, respect, and compassion. I know that Joe is aware of each of the comments and actions on this Board and the love and prayers we are sending his way. I am so glad to now say that Janet is in my life. Through tragedy we have now connected. I am glad to call you friend! You are a very dear person.
DS has introduced some very exceptional people into my life. Nancy and Kay...the stories we could tell about our times together! My beloved Helen...who walked us out of the fire after "The Golden Girls: LIVE!" closed, and every day is there for us in so MANY ways. I could go on and on. But one pretty amazing story is a woman named Diane. She posts on here but I am so confused by people's aliases. She has known me since I was 5 years old and we did many a community theater show together. In fact I consider her my fist vocal coach. Life takes on different paths and we hadn't seen each other since I was a teenager. Though we always asked about the other through family and friends. At the Tarrytown fest I was in the elevator going up to my room to grab something for a skit. I looked over and read the woman's name tage standing next to me. She looked familar...Believe it or not that woman was Diane...almost 20 years later...she recently played Blanche in our GG skit at the fest. So this show has amazing power to bring people togther,
I would ask that we maintain the positive energy and please don't contact Joe or Craig directly at this time. The websites being discussed here include some contact information. As you can imagine Joe is being inundated with emails and since that is his work email listed I want to make sure we are cognizant of that fact.
Janet is closest to the boys. She will make sure to let everyone know the best way to make contact and at what point. Janet, Peter, and I are spending some time together on Saturday. We will make sure to coordinate a communication plan at that time.
Thanks for being there everyone.
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I think the shock of all this has ended. Denial isn't giving me comfort anymore. I want to thank all of you for allowing me to share emotions here. I feel all your hugs, and I don't feel alone. Without Peter and John I would be on the floor of my bathroom screaming they, and all of you are holding me together. Right now it is 11pm and I feel so scared. I was so strong when he was ill, he always got better though it's been 4 years of this hell. Now I have to face the fact I will live a life without my dear friend in it. Yet I have to be strong for Joe. 10 years of acting trainning, but I know I am not that good an actor. I am afraid to cry, afraid I won't stop.
Please know how much I appreciate this place. It is keeping me off the bathroom floor.
Janet
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I'm remembering one of the best books I ever read,
Eric by Doris Lund.
Published in 1974, it's still in print.
Eric Lund died of leukemiea in 1972, aged 22.
His mom, Doris Lund, a journalist at the time, wrote the book Eric to make sense of what happened.
It's a deeply moving testament to the power of love.
David