Actually, to be fair, a few other people (and two of them either dwell or spend all of their time at the Old House) need to just grow up, accept that life ain't fair, and get the hell on with their lives.
Ain't that the damned truth. And don't you just love how everytime someone dies Barnabas tells whoever is grieving that they "must just forget him/her?" Maybe not always his exact words, but he always manages to convey the sentiment. I know this is considered high treason by some, but, geez, that Barnabas really is one self important, too into himself ass.
And Julia? Get a grip. You've got the goods on him, just blackmail him out of whatever he has left of those family jewels and run off with Stokes already.
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