A major annoying "What?" was when in 1970 Julia discovers through her search of Quentin's portrait, that Angelique has returned and is now married to Sky. Angelique informs Julia that she doesn't want to be involved in any of the Collins' problems, that she's found a happy life with her husband and doesn't want that ruined. She pleads with Julia to allow her to live a happy life without her past deeds being revealed, and Julia agrees.
Firstly, this annoys me because if Julia is so devoted to Barnabas, and knowing all the terrible things Angelique subjected him to, highest on the list, the death of many of his family members, she would have at least cut Angelique with a few sharp remarks, then demanded why she shouldn't run and tell barnabas of Angelique's return. Instead, she placidly goes along with Angelique's requests, accept for involving her with smuggling Quentin's painting in order to uncover it from the landscape.
Barnabas does eventually learn of Angelique's existence and marriage, and he goes to her home to ask for her help.
Barnabas should realize by now that Angelique isn't to be trusted, why would he want her help with anything? It seems like he'd want to stay as far away from her as possible. Angelique tells him she doesn't want to help him in any way, that her life with Sky is very important and she doesn't want it ruined by any Collins' antics.
Barnabas, in an understanding tone says he understands her feelings completely and doesn't want to destroy her happiness with her husband.
But why was Barnabas so understanding of her, willing to keep her past deeds quiet, willing to allow her happiness when she so blatantly obliterated his life in 1795? Shouldn't he have reminded her of her selfish motives in the past, using his own knowledge to his advantage to get her to do what he wanted? He was just so docile about the entire thing, as though nothing harsh had ever been between them!
Through Barnabas's stubborn insistence she promises to conceal Carolyn, but only for a short time. Then she returns to her old ways, threatening him with her formidable powers if he doesn't uphold his end of the bargain, that helping him won't cause her any troubles with Sky. Yet again he is kind in the face of her threats instead of pointing out that he has already been subjected to her powers time and again, he doesn't need to be reminded of her capabilities. IMHO, he should have displayed a little bitterness at her request for happiness when she so coldly and calculatingly denied it to him.
Yet another moment: After returning from 1995, Barnabas and Julia inform Quentin of his possible future fate, explaining of his madness in the face of family tragedy, and that he will become very attached to the ghost of a woman named Daphne. Fully aware of what is to come, Daphne appears to Quentin, and instead of sending her away, or at the very least protesting her presence with him, he welcomes her, simply because she's a beautiful woman. If knowledge is power, then he didn't use what he knew to avoid a fate he knew was to come. He continues to be involved with Daphne, all the while knowing the dangers, but obviously he doesn't care about his sanity or the children if he is willing to set this all aside for the sake of beauty.
Yet another: During the dream curse when Willie has the dream and is then frantic to tell it to Carolyn, instead of feeling sympathetic towards him, Barnabas and Julia tell him to stop complaining about the dream and search for Adam. Julia has experienced the dream, she knows the terrifying feelings it provokes in the person who has had the dream, so now why is she so callously pushing aside Willie's emotions as if they don't matter? Poor Willie!