Why I bother with this, I don't know. Don't take what I said and twist and turn it to mean something else.
Here's the bottom line:
I just find it disrespectful to use someone's death PLUS someone else's failure to note that person's partner in a death notice, as a jumping-off point to preach and politicize. Then it goes into someone else's personal problems of being persecuted by DS fans five years ago. I was under the impression that these different types of political issues were off limits here.
It also struck me as unfair to make negative assumptions about someone because they didn't put any survived-by info in a newsletter. That's why I didn't think it appropriate to make inferences in a public manner. No one knows what is in her heart or why or why not Craig's partner was not mentioned.
For the record: I feel a person's partner/soul-mate - whatever you want to call them, should always be noted in an obituary in the same way anyone's loved ones are noted. That does not mean however, that I would jump to conclusions about the writer if they were to omit something.
That's all. Now if it makes some of you feel better to preach at me, or make certain assumptions about me, (someone you don't even know), then by all means, go to it. This is the very thing you are decrying.
