Yes, to each his own. Too much instant gratificaton doesn't lend itself too much of a build up of sexual tension and once we actually see the physical act, it gets boring really quickly IMO. I thought one scene that seems really erotic is the scene where Barnabas appears in Charity's room and she submits to him. The scene where Quentin is dancing with Charity in the fantasy sequence isn't the least bit sexy to me but to some friends of mine, it is.