I never meant to imply that people should gird themselves for the possibility of a different vampire look in the Depp/DS film - only that they shouldn't be surprised if there is a different look.
And I also never meant to imply that it would be a look that would always be on display. Like in other vampire stories, it would only manifest itself when the vampire is about to attack and/or feeling the lust for blood - the same situations where Barnabas' eyes would change and his fangs would appear in the '91 series.
Also, in the '91 Series Josette had no problem accepting Barnabas when he was in full-on vampire mode. In fact, she took his face in her hands and made Barnabas look directly at her to show that nothing had changed for her and she wasn't afraid. The very same sort of situation could take place in the Depp/DS film. After all, it's a classic beauty and the beast type of moment. Altering the vampire make up need not necessarily affect the love story one iota.